Emotional Eating at Night
For so many of us, nighttime feels like stepping into a different version of ourselves.
One that feels “fine” all day, but starts to unravel the moment the sun goes down. One who can’t stop thinking about snacks, who wanders into the kitchen on autopilot, who feels out of control around food in ways that never show up at noon. It can feel confusing, frustrating, even shameful.
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Let’s be clear: nothing about this makes you weak, broken, or lacking willpower. In fact, what happens at night is almost always a signal; a physiological one, an emotional one, or both. Sometimes it’s as simple as your body saying, “Hey, I didn’t get enough today,” even if you didn’t feel hungry at the time. Sometimes it’s the residue of all the structure, pressure, and performance mode of the day finally melting away…and taking your guard down with it. And sometimes, the quiet of the evening is the only space where the loneliness, exhaustion, or unmet needs you pushed aside earlier finally surface.
And then there’s the kind of hunger that has nothing to do with an empty stomach. The urgent, specific craving that whispers (or screams), I need that right now. Not because you’re “bad” or “failing,” but because emotional hunger is still hunger, just a different kind. A cue worth noticing, not judging.
Once we stop thinking of nighttime eating as a “bad habit” to break and start getting curious about what it’s trying to tell us…everything shifts. The path forward isn’t about restriction or rigid rules. It’s about understanding. About nourishment in the broadest possible sense.
If this is resonating, even a little, you’re going to want to hear the full conversation. We go much deeper into the psychology, the physiology, the nighttime patterns your body remembers, and the small daytime shifts that can completely transform your evenings.
In this episode, I’m talking about…
Why nighttime eating isn’t about “willpower” and what’s actually happening biologically.
How daytime restriction (even the sneaky, “healthy habit” kind) rebounds as nighttime cravings.
The role of exhaustion, cortisol patterns, and lowered inhibition in evening food anxiety.
How unmet emotional needs surface at night after a day of performance, structure, and busyness.
Why the body holds onto past experiences and why evenings may feel unsafe for some people.
Understanding emotional (or “metaphoric”) hunger and how it differs from physical hunger.
How to observe the difference between urgent, specific cravings and true physical cues, without judgment.
Why emotional eating isn’t wrong and why sometimes eating is the right response.
The most important step: making sure you’re eating enough during the day, especially carbs.
How to identify what feelings show up before and after you reach for food.
Shifting from control to curiosity: “What is my body or mind trying to get right now?”
Why the “it’s just a habit, break it” narrative completely misses the deeper picture.
Listen to the full episode for the full unpacking and for the practical steps that can help you finally feel at peace when the night comes.
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"Your body might not be confused or just randomly anxious. It might actually be undernourished." - Rachelle Heinemann
"Sometimes we get caught up in what we call healthy habits… and these are like the perfect conditions to breed bingey eating or nighttime food anxiety." - Rachelle Heinemann
"At night, usually that's where all the leftovers emotionally show up." - Rachelle Heinemann
"Emotional hunger is not fake hunger, it's just a metaphoric hunger." - Rachelle Heinemann
"If you're hungry, whether it's metaphoric or otherwise, you're hungry for something." - Rachelle Heinemann
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